[Ali_Imran]

Teen Dies After Being Choked In Her Own Home

She wanted to be more Western.

He wanted her to be more traditional.

And that clash of cultures may have been what led a father to allegedly choke and kill his daughter on Monday. Police are saying very little about what happened in a home on normally quiet Longhorn Trail in the Eglinton and Hurontario area of Mississauga. But the friends of 16-year-old Aqsa Parvez claim she was desperately trying to pull away from the strict traditions of her devout Muslim family and lived in fear of her father.

"Every single time, we'd get off the school bus she would always want me to walk her halfway home because she was paranoid her dad or brother would follow her home," remembers Ashley Garbutt. "She used to walk the rest of the way home. I stopped for a little while and after, I kept continuing because I understood it was a serious matter. And then after, I was expecting her to come to school on Monday and everything was going to be fine."

But as students at Applewood Heights Secondary School discovered during when the announcement of their friends' death came over the PA system on Tuesday, nothing was.

Aqsa passed away in hospital overnight. The sad story began around 8am the day before when a man called police to report he'd murdered his daughter. Authorities found the girl clinging to life. She'd reportedly been choked into unconsciousness. Her father, identified as 57-year-old cab driver Muhammad Parvez, was taken into custody at the scene.

Her friends tell of a troubled family life, with the teen refusing to wear the traditional head covering hijab, and preferring more Western-style clothing.

They say she'd moved out and was staying with a friend, and may have gone back to get her things when the confrontation began. "She's kind of rebellious a bit," confirms classmate Heather Bottecher. "She's supposed to wear the hijab. But she doesn't usually wear it. And she usually wears short sleeves when you're supposed to wear long sleeves. And she wears, like, low cut shirts and stuff like that."

"We noticed a drastic change in her appearance," another friend named Shianne Phillips recalls. "Like, she used to dress religiously. Now she's dressing in, like, more causal clothing, like other people."

There are reports the teen would wear the special garb to school then change when she got there to fool her father.

The entire family - seven adults and three children - was questioned by police after the crime and cops claim they found enough evidence to charge the victim's brother, 26-year-old Waqas Parvez, with obstructing justice.

Grief counsellors were at the school on Tuesday to try and help shocked students cope with the loss.

http://www.citynews....news_17567.aspx

[Ali_Imran]

From a yesterday article: Teen girl in critical condition after alleged dispute over hijab

Friends of the teenager, a Grade 11 student at nearby Applewood Heights high school, identified her as Aqsa Parvez and said they were shocked by the attack on the outgoing, likeable girl, but said she had been threatened by her strictly religious family before.

"She got threatened by her father and her brother," said Dominiquia Holmes-Thompson, who had known Aqsa since they both started high school together. "He said that if she leaves, he would kill her."

Ebonie Mitchell, 16, another friend of the victim, said the conflict with her father over wearing Islamic dress came to a head at the beginning of this school year. "She just wanted to dress like we do," she said.

"Last year she wore like the Islamic stuff and everything, the hijab, and this year she's all Western. She just wanted to look like everyone else. And I guess her dad had a problem with that."

Ebonie said her friend had left home once before, in September, for about two weeks. She returned home, but the fights with her family over what she wore just got worse.

Dominiquia, 16, said her friend had been arguing with her father for more than a year over the restrictions he imposed on her, including demanding that she wear the hijab at all times. "She wanted to go out with her friends, hang out and just be like a normal person," she said. "But he was always trying to control her ... he wouldn't let her go out or do anything."

The stricken girl's friends said the fights with her father got so bad that she had left the family home to live with friends about a week ago. "She was going back, but just to get her stuff," said friend Krista Garbutt. "She was scared to go home, but she had to get her clothes and stuff."

http://network.natio...over-hijab.aspx

This post has been edited by Ali_Imran: 11 December 2007 - 06:52 PM

[napraforgo]

If only the parents had educated the girl instead of forcing her, the tragedy might have been avoided.

[faress]

Disastrous Case . To Allah We Shall Return.
This isn't' about The Family Educating Their Daughter it is about a whole Environment that act and Behave in a such ways that one in the middle of a Majority who doesn't Know anything about Shame and God's Law except in stories and Legends..
The Father was Wrong To Kill Her But she was also Wrong to Disobey Her Family and Follow her Girlfriends Western views and I'm sure that many Sick people Do Love to Act Satan On Earth and whisper to The Muslim girl many things in order to mislead her just as they are Also misled by a whole Society .and when a whole society act one and same way it is very hard to blame and accuse the little young individuals..?
but Still I do not see this as a Correct SayingThe sad story began around 8am the day before when a man called police to report he'd murdered his daughter.?
Why it doesn't simply Say Her Father Called The Police ...Anyways I think it's Very Stupid to wish Living a Muslim way of Life and Keep on hanging arround Kafirs if one have possibilities they Should Either Move near a Muslim Community where the Kids Could integrate with other Muslim folks or Move back home..but it depends because nowadays The western Habit is everywhere .we should Revive The Peaceful Islamic Education and make it Enter The hearts and be Loved and not harsh and be hated .as Prophet sw have taught us ./Habibou wala Tonafirou/
and No Matter what happened we should Help The Youth Not Murder Them.in The main Time The Youth also should Learn that There is No Running away from Allah swt but back to him.

This post has been edited by faress: 11 December 2007 - 08:51 PM

[Aaliyah]

This is really sad. This girl was a teen, her father should have been a bit more open-minded with her and more understanding.

[Abudhar]

I think what the father did was very haram. There is no compulsion in Islam (I don't remember the sourat :s). I mean a 16 year old isn't immature, and If a father can't convince his daughter about Islam rationally then how would he succeed in convincing her by using force? I mean If she has chosen this life to the next one, is there a problem? Allah, The Almighty, is The best of judges. And If Allah, The Most Clement, has given us a chosen time to make good or bad, and has chosen not to systematically kill those who make bad deeds then there is a reason. It's to show to that person how unjust he was and how Clement Allah was by giving him a long time to act.
What I mean is that, I think what the father did was (very) wrong. Because, the daughter being young and naive didn't pose a threat to Islam for having chosen to avoid Islam. Whereas the father being pious and very compulsive about it, poses a threat to the global image of Islam and those who aren't educated about Islam will stick to that image.

P.S: This is only my viewpoint and my knowledge of Islam isn't good enough for I to be taken seriously (I do this is to create a debate). May Allah forgive me If i have said something wrong (critics are welcome).

[IBelieve]

I think the result of this enforces the importance of wearing hijab at a younger age. That way a girl grows up knowing how to deal with the peer pressure and with society and how to defend the hijab. I'm sure that her friends would have been supportive of her if she had shown them she wanted it from her heart and it's what she truly believed in. But, the father's action has no excuse. He should have realized that if his daughter was to wear it only in fear of him, that it would leave no impact on her.. It's sad to see this happen after a lack of communication and misunderstanding; it could have been easily prevented.

[napraforgo]

It seems the father realized he was wrong, or he wouldn't have called the police.

[Mo_Shia]

this is the result when people choose not to follow the rules.

[A Follower]

^ So you are saying that the father is rightful in doing what he did? Do explain this logically please

[serenity]

this is so unbelievably sad. its like, in a way you can sympathise with both father and daughter. its shocking that the father called the police ... what would have happen most likely is that the father buries his daughter and then take off or whatever. the fact that he confessed shows his remorse and guilt for what he has done.

what happened between the father and the daughters shows that there is a huge generation gap. Parents moving to West, expecting their children to raised exactly as they would have done back home, are being very naive. They have to be a bit more understanding and educate themselves further so that they can reach a ground of understanding with their children. you can't force hijab upon a girl.. this is where everyone goes wrong, they think that Islam is a restriction but it isnt!...

i feel for the mother .. losing two people she loves a lot. sheesh!

[faress]

You See things from one Angle or Side but if you wish me to shock you more is that I respect the Young Girl choice for not willing to wear Hijab; because it shows her sincerity that she isn't convinced by wearing Hijab in a world that doesn't fit to that Culture and way of Living thinking believing etc..despite that there are few sects and minorities out there that abide by Hijab as well .
why I'm Respecting her choice well as I said she was Sincere and if The Father Could have managed to be More patient despite the issue was taken Years as The Story say..and Trust me women Nowadays seems to be resisting Parental and Brother punishments ..because how could keep beating some one you Love and care for ..One Day You will Give up!
Sometimes as My Own Experience with My own Sister ..in a moment something told me That Your Sister wants you to beat her in purpose and in that Time I didn't despite what Awful Arguments was going on..as I said something Told me that my Sister that I haven't Seen in Years have studied about Men abuse and we can not deny this fact as well ...So I knew that my Sister wanted to See what her Knowledge is about ..Since may be those that claim to be Religious are mostly to act Aggressive..Well I didn't Punish My Sister and my parents warned me from doing such things .in The End I gained More Respect and" Silence "is a key to Gaining respect and Peace at home as a saying of Ahlo Al Bayet Request. .of Course we are Talking about behavior not Haram things..Allah knows Best.
So The Reason I respect this Girl is because She could have KEPT THE HIJAB and in the mean time she would Fool her parents and family when she is only fooling herself in Reality..and Trust me I know of certain females without Hijab who does Respect themselves better than those that Do wear it except that They haven't Got a chance yet to be Enlightened by some one who is more Knowledgeable of course in order to have people Listen to you you have to be Loving and Caring..
as The Quraan say about Prophet SW "If you were NERVOUS and Impolite They would have Left you"

This post has been edited by faress: 12 December 2007 - 03:19 PM

[Aaliyah]

Canadian dad kills daughter for refusing hijab
OTTAWA (AFP)

Friends of a 16-year-old girl who was murdered by her devout Muslim father in Toronto said she was killed for not wearing a hijab.

Aqsa Parvez died after she was rushed to hospital with life-threatening injuries on Monday. Emergency crews had responded to call from "a man who indicated that he had just killed his daughter."

Her father, Muhammad Parvez, 57, was arrested at the scene and will be formally charged with murder when he appears in court Wednesday, said police.


The girl's friends, meanwhile, told local media she was having trouble at home because she did not conform to the family's religious beliefs and refused to wear a traditional Islamic head scarf, or hijab.

"She wanted to go different ways than her family wanted to go, and she wanted to make her own path, but he (her father) wouldn't let her," one of her classmates told public broadcaster CBC.

"She loved clothes," another of her friends, Dominiquia Holmes-Thompson, told the daily Toronto Star. "She just wanted to show her beauty ... She just wanted to dress like us, just like a normal person."

According to her friends, Aqsa had worn the hijab at school last year, but rebelled in recent months.

They said she would leave home wearing a hijab and loose-fitting clothes, but would take off her head scarf and change into tighter garments at school, then change back before going home at the end of the day.

The victim's 26 year-old brother was also charged with obstructing police in the investigation.

http://www.alarabiya...2/12/42852.html

[Bilaal]

serenity, on Dec 12 2007, 01:20 AM, said:

this is so unbelievably sad. its like, in a way you can sympathise with both father and daughter.

i dont wish to sound harsh but i dont really feel sorry for either the father or the girl. one reason being that i dont really know the full story so i cant judge. the father may have killed her by mistake, and manslaughter is not like murder.

some people wish to die for their religion, to die for Allah. and this girl died becasue she went against the religion?

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I respect the Young Girl choice for not willing to wear Hijab; because it shows her sincerity that she isn't convinced by wearing Hijab

faress you respect her for being sincere? how do you know she was being sincere?

[serenity]

Bilaal, on Dec 12 2007, 08:31 PM, said:

i dont wish to sound harsh but i dont really feel sorry for either the father or the girl. one reason being that i dont really know the full story so i cant judge. the father may have killed her by mistake, and manslaughter is not like murder.

you're right about not knowing the full story, who knows what the real story is, only Allah swt, the father and the daughter knows. i have doubts about what the schoolgirls, the daughter's friends, were saying. cz they can exaggerate sometimes to create drama.

fair enough you dont sympathise with the daughter. every1 has their own choice an opinions. but how come you dont sympathise with the father at least ? he was trying his best to guide his daughter in the right path (although perhaps not in the right way), but it failed miserably and it got him in even worst situation that before.

[faress]

Bilaal, on Dec 12 2007, 08:31 PM, said:

i dont wish to sound harsh but i dont really feel sorry for either the father or the girl. one reason being that i dont really know the full story so i cant judge. the father may have killed her by mistake, and manslaughter is not like murder.
some people wish to die for their religion, to die for Allah. and this girl died becasue she went against the religion?
faress you respect her for being sincere? how do you know she was being sincere?

She showed her Sincere rejection To not wear it as Her Mind was Brainwashed and Full of Ideologies against wearing Hijab.So she said No.
I believe that if our Communities and Islamic Communities were Doing their duty and Listening to Family issues and Helping them stand the western Pressure as we have Our Sister here Admitting been Pressured to leave Islam Or Hijab it is Th same to me by having her come to too many questioning and counseling..
The point that Made me Respect her is that Her Mind Could have accepted Hijab with The same Level when we have a true Environment that Tells her The Difference of acting Wild /Modernized /Civilized as They Name it Or Behaving and Dressing as a Muslimah and That is The True Civilization Because The PEOPLE BEFORE used to Dress Like nowadays "Nudity"and Islam as other MESSENGERS OF ALLAH SWT Came to US all to Help us be CIVILIZED and Not Ignorant Shameless Humans.
I respect Her for not wearing Hijab because She Couldn't Keep Lying..I respect her Choice because she Told her parents who she is in The End and who she wishes to be ..Regardless of whether she was wrong or not ..She Needed Time and a right Teacher ..but Some one else Needed to be there to that instead of Her Family .Because Family sometimes act out of Track.
I respect her Choice Because I'm The only one to See what I saw when a Hijab Women Drinks Alcohol and Sell herself in The meat MARKET .Mocking her Faith and FAMILY and a Whole UMMAH. I'M I ?
You got my point Bilal ?

This post has been edited by faress: 12 December 2007 - 09:09 PM

[IBelieve]

It's sad for both of them and their entire family... I really do believe though it was not the father's intention to kill his daughter. Maybe his motivation was not purely for Islamic reasons; maybe it was to preserve honor and safegaurd the family from what others might think, culturally... Allahu Alam.

What's also sad though, is how others are intrepreting the story. People are blaming Islam instead of the father's action as an individual. And, as Sr. Heaven mentioned, there are enough people who don't believe us.

[Aaliyah]

Heaven, Sis did you go to the KKK High School for the Creative Racism ? That school sounds awful.